I know...you think this question is a "no-brainer!" Well...think again while I wander your thoughts a little.
First, I must confess that I not really certain many men really understand the concept of love. It seems to be a malady among many men. However, I am going to assume, for the purposes of this writing, that a man understands what it means to love a women. I am going to assume also that a man does it with some semblance of sensibility. I am, by the way, quite certain that women understand what it means to love a man, at least much better than us men understand.
I saw a book one time which was titled: Everything Men Know About Women. It had a red cover and it was small to be sure; No more than fifty pages and probably about five by seven inches in size. I was in a hurry; thought that was quite an interesting title for a book; so I bought the book. I figured that when I arrived home and read the book, I would know everything men know about women. When I had time later that evening, I opened the book and found that every single page in the book was blank. There was not one word in the book. I had to laugh. Then I realized there was some truth in this little book.
I think us men...
I think us men believe we know more about women than we really do. We think we know a lot about women. We think we know what makes them tick, what they need, need to give them, how we should treat them, and so on and so forth. I am not sure we are real smart about any of those things. Not that those who ever made a study or tried to learn do not understand. But the average guy walking down the average street saying: Hey, I know all about women" is probably deluding himself. On the other hand, I am very certain that most women know men much better about men; certainly much better than we men know about women. It seems that women are much more perceptive. They are more tuned into those kinds of things than we men. However, we men are egotistical enough to believe we know things when we really do not.
So, why does a man love a women? There are probably a number of reasons why. I will offer a few, at least those that come to mind. I think I should also offer what I believe to be the true underlying strength of a relationship between a man and a woman, when there is a strong relationship.
The following seem to be some of the reasons for which a man loves a woman:
1. She is beautiful.
2. She will provide to him some of those physical interests that men tend to have.
3. He is looking for someone to fulfill some of the duties he has lost from his mother being around.
4. He feels an affinity with her because she has characteristics which he likes such as intelligence, or looks, or athletic skills or other such things.
5. He believes that their personalities and interests and attitudes are very similar and that they resonate, and that they, in a sense, resonate with each other.
6. While he has some positive feelings, he is primarily driven by a sense of responsibility and duty which may also include guilt.
7. He is head over heels in love with this women, and he believes she is the same for him. Other things are really secondary to his strength of his emotional state.
So, there are a few reasons. Now the question: Why are you in love with your woman? Which, or all or any, of the above reasons fits you? What other reasons do you have, any? Have you figured it out yet, pal? You should at least try!
What is the underlying strength? I believe it is love. Good old fashioned, head-over-heels Love! You just cannot stand to be away from her! You miss her when she is not there! You put her needs ahead of your own! You seek after her happiness! You could never knowingly hurt her! You feel her feelings (though you do not understand them)! You would literally die for her if you had to do so! If you both have those feelings for each other my friend, you have a gift few of us have ever achieved!